Wednesday, 12 April 2017


I have been quite discerning lately.  

I've no idea where this newfound ethos has come from but in recent times I've found myself adopting a new way of thinking.

Historically, when I've found myself in an uncomfortable situation I would grin and bear it.  I would out act Meryl Streep by putting on a mask and pretending the circumstances were what I wanted.  When in truth I just wanted to get the hell out of Dodge. 

Recently, in a sign of changing times I have started to say a word I have very rarely used.  The word is no. 

The perception of the word 'no' appears to be a final.  However, on closer inspection, it is not so much how it appears but the reasoning behind that proves much more interesting. 

I have said no because I no longer have it in my heart to say yes.  For years, I have tried to please others and while this is no doubt appreciated I have come to conclusion it is no longer necessary or was ever needed in the first place.  

Recently, I have encountered circumstances which have proved unsettling and instead of pushing them away, I have embraced them.  Then I asked for what I wanted and I got it. 

Don't ever be afraid to ask for what you want.  

Sometimes, the answer is in the question itself and in finding what no longer serves you, you reveal in crystal clarity exactly what does gifting you with a peaceful resolution. 
Listening to your own needs is not a selfish act.  Your gut instinct will always encourage you to speak your truth and it is in the embrace of this experience you set yourself free and celebrated your authentic self.  

Assertiveness is loving yourself through action.
So, if I could leave you with one parting wish, I would like it to be this because it is worth repetition.  Don't ever be afraid to ask for you want, you might just get it.  

I did.