Wednesday, 23 September 2015


I always learn something new when I meet up with my free spirit, the affectionate nickname I have given my good friend and mentor June Finlayson.

We can chat for hours about the fascinating to the absurd and as she tilts a mirror in my direction I laugh and look at myself differently as I appreciate what she is trying to teach me.

And as I always learn then she says something a phrase, a tug of words that inspires me to some sort of creation buried within yet to be born into life.

It stated with a single question:

"What would I tell my 18 year old self?"

The question piqued my interest and my writers mind instantly began to assemble a myriad of thoughts and feeling as I asked myself the same question.

Now, a week later, I think I've found some of the answers.

Dear me...

It's okay to take a risky gamble every now and then, that is how some of the most magnificent things have come to pass and made history

You can tell who a person is by their actions, not their words.

Look in the mirror, the person looking back at you? That's the only one you ever need to impress.

Red lipstick is never wrong.

Remember that 7 inch heels are less comfortable at 2am when you're trying to get a taxi.

Laugh your ass off at least once a day.  Times three.

There is nothing wrong with wanting an Alpha. Your Dad is one.
When your Mum tells you to walk tall and be proud, believe her.

When your sister in law writes you a letter telling you how much you mean to her, keep the letter & tell her how much you appreciate her, she's awesome.

When your brother grabs you in a cuddle, hug him back, hard.

Set your own self worth, it's priceless.

Know that you are stronger than anything that tried to hurt you.

When someone jokes that you are never in, agree it's a good thing even though you are exhausted.

Learn to cook for god's sake, you suck at it.

Same goes with tea, leave the bag in for more than 10 seconds, people will be surprised it's not as bad as usual.

Music is just the best thing ever, stick with it.

Express yourself creatively.  Every. Single. Day.

Love yourself before you even think about loving someone else.

Self respect means much more than attention.

You're a complicated woman and that's okay, appreciate it.

If it's not fun, it ain't worth doing.

Be passionate about everything.

You can never buy enough books or music or both.

When you fall in love, don't be afraid to open your heart.

Trust that your heart will be cherished and protected by the one that is meant to keep it.

Life is short, cherish it.

Tell Nana and Grandad how much you love them, you'll miss them when they're gone.

Always take your notepad when you go and see Gran and Grandad, you are recording history and they love it.

You have clothes, food and a warm bed to sleep in at night.  Always show gratitude, you're damn lucky.

You never needed any gym/Zumba/whatever. Just walk.

Keep on swimming. Keep on swimming.

Fresh air is the best therapy you'll ever get.

The ocean is one of natures miracles. Spend time near it.

Get rid of the tick list.  Just chill out.

Smile more it makes you happy.

Words - little ones big ones. Appreciate every single one of them.

Let go and let be. Best advice ever.

When you are strong and centred nothing can knock you down.

Respect is earned not given.

Appreciate your curves. Jennifer Lopez made a career out of hers.

Be a woman your daughter would want to grow up to be like.

Be a kick ass woman but smile with it, it's helps a lot.

Respect the lessons life gives you even if you don't quite understand them at the time, there is always a reason

Always apply mascara at least twice.

Any self respecting girl owns a pair of eyelash curlers.

It's okay to fall on your ass once in a while, just make sure the heels are fabulous and the champers was expensive.

Dresses. Wrap dresses. Shift dresses. Celebrate your curves.

Home hair dye kits. Avoid them. It's a disaster waiting to happen.

You're clumsy. Not everyone is meant to have a full set of unbroken crockery. Martha Stewart is just glad your using a plate.

Stop guessing the microwave times, it's on the box, dinner does not need drama.

Disco naps are an unrecognised art form.

Be glad of your friends, you're lucky to have them.